October 14, 2007
Most Parents Focused on teaching their
children
Soon after their children begin to say
their first words, most parents become focused on teaching their children
one of the most important phrases of polite conversation, “Thank you.” A
generous person shares some of his snack with a toddler and you hear the
child’s parent, “Now what do you say, Johnny?” After a slightly puzzled look
and a few moments consideration, —including a glance back into the parent’s
face to see if there is some clue in the way they are mouthing the words—and
(if you are listening closely) you hear a mumbled, “Thank you.” An
encouraging adult notices a child wearing a new dress that matches the bows
in her hair: “You certainly look pretty today.”“ What do you say, Mary?”
“Thank you.”
Still, in spite of all the effort that goes into teaching us this element of
civility, it amazes me how often people remark that they rarely hear
it—especially in the church. I suppose most people assume that when other
people do something for them — whether it is at work, at homç, or at church
— they are entitled to the preferential treatment they receive; and so, they
do not need to acknowledge what the other person has done for them.
Unfortunately, the assumption of entitlement can lead to a climate of
resentment, unless we are careful.
Paul urges us to give thanks in all situations (1 Thessalonians 5:18). Of
course, Paul is primarily instructing the believers to thank God, but I
believe Paul is also talking about the kind of attitude that believers
should have toward one another, as well. Furthermore, I believe it is that
kind of attitude—one of pervading gratitude—that will distinguish us from
the rest of the world. I believe people will notice when we express our
thanks to them for any and every act of kindness or generosity—no matter how
small.
The real challenge comes when we are faced with the decision about whether
we will continue to be kind and generous even when the rest of the world
takes our benevolence for granted. What an extraordinary witness it is to
love even in the absence of a simple, Thank you.” Let us learn this lesson
from Jesus as we gather for worship this Sunday